At risk of offending my female readers (and I know there are some of them) I decided to post this anyways. If you are one of my female readers, do understand that you are not the sort of woman who would be asking this question in the first place, so this doesn’t apply to you.
Moving on, though. Under almost all circumstances the answer to the question is OF COURSE YOU SHOULD!
But you still have your doubts, so let me alleviate those fears.
I don’t like the idea of “stag” vacations…
Relax honey. A “face shot” is not what you think it is.
During winter season, every ski resort area is an unrivaled sausage-fest, a brodown of epic proportions. Collected over years of research, the most accurate data available suggests the ratio of men to women never dips below 7 to 1, even during events like Sundance Film Festival, and is often closer to 9 to 1.
What this means for you, is that unless he has a penchant for picking up snow carnies and skanks (in which case you’ve got bigger problems…) or he is an absolute Adonis, he has no chance of hooking up with anyone.
I want to spend our vacations together…
There are two sets of circumstances under which this condition might arise: Either you want to go shred gnar with him, or you don’t shred gnar and you want to monopolize his two-weeks-of-vacation-per-year all to yourself nevermind the fact that it’s only winter for like 12 weeks out of 52 and the rest of the year he probably does everything you want anyways.
In the first case you plan a weekend together and let him have his guy’s weekend, too. That was easy.
In the second case, you should learn how to snowboard, or if you absolutely must, go skiing, and then follow the course of action set forth, above. Note however that “Together” does not mean “joined at the hip.” Here are some rules to abide:
- If he gets up at 7am to make first tracks, and you don’t get out of bed until 11am, you do not complain!
- If he stays out until the last chair shuts down and you’re tired after lunch, you do not complain!
- If you want to spend the day at the spa and he wants to charge chutes, you do not complain!
- If you do not want bacon for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, buy Clif Bars.
Money…
If you don’t have the money, fine. I get that. But this is a really decision that you should reach mutually. Money, or lack thereof, is really the only acceptable answer short of a family circumstances (more on this, below).
We have other plans that weekend…
Apart from a death in the family, birth of a child (his child, not your sister’s or your best friend’s…) or a wedding for a close friend/relative which you knew about and to which he committed to attend prior to hatching the vacation idea, “we have other plans” usually means that you have something that came up at the last minute, and you want to drag him there with you.
Feminine shenanigans (including but not limited to bridal showers and baby showers, push parties, etc.), extra-curricular engagements like your work holiday party, and other events at which you might request his presence but which you know he has zero interest in attending, are not sufficient cause to deny his God-given right to shred the motherf*cking gnar.
Conclusion
Cut the dude some slack, OK. Think about all the things he’s done for you that you know he didn’t want to do. That includes going to the mall to help you pick out new shoes, or that Saturday afternoon that you spent at IKEA. He probably doesn’t ask for much, and now that we’ve established that most of your concerns are absolutely bunk, you should feel safe letting him hit the slopes for a few days without you.
